Make your f- number smaller - it’ll open up your lens a lot more - as a result it’ll let more light in and burn out your render so turn up your shutter speed to compensate. Try dropping your f number to around 2 and bring your shutter to around 125 off the top of my head - get the blurriness correct and use shutter to expose.
Also the settings in the render rollout have no effect on your scene when using a vray camera. you can just turn that dof off and just leave the cameras dof on.
Incidentially, if I wanted to do Dof in post (After Effects) is there a plugin that will allow me to do that ? Something similar to Richard Rosenmans Photoshop plugin.
Try something like lenscare by frischluft - It can use a vray depth channel render element as a control layer so you can pull focus and so on - does nice puffy highlights too.
I’m finding this too difficult to get predicatable results.
When I zoom into an object - the focus grids become very narrow and therefore make the focused area minimal and relatively useless. To remedy this, I increase the f-number but then the shutter speed needs to be modified.
Anyway, looks like it will have to be done in post.