I have similar issues with DR GPU in VRay 5…usually I get an error that Host is not responding, but even without the error it often does not utilize slaves.
Sometimes the slave appear for 3 seconds and suddenly drops.
I believe it is somehow correlated to slave’s GPU memory being full and instead of giving any error it just not connecting. Although, this morning I left only second, idling GPU active in “Select devices for GPU rendering” and it still wasn’t picked by my machine.
I also can’t get the CPU on the slaves to be utilized in CUDA mode.
Having re-read the docs, then yes, seems I should run the “vraystdspawner.exe” instead for GPU DR jobs on the slaves
“C:\Program Files\Chaos Group\V-Ray\3ds Max ####\bin\vraystdspawner.exe”
So NOT the regular spawner2021 which you use for typical CPU jobs…